I love the community I have built with other writers, especially the #MGWaves. Since it doesn't involve going in to an office or having an official "team" in any way (at least pre-publication), having a community of writers to lean on can make this life feel less lonely. Especially since my main occupation for much of my adult life has been as a stay at home mom and I don't have another profession, finding "my people" in the writing world has been especially helpful. The Waves critique my work and help me become a better writer, they cheer me up when I have bad news, and they cheer me on when I have good news.
There's just one potential problem with being a part of a community of writers. Inevitably, some of them will end up pulling ahead of you on the writing road. When we started the Waves we had all applied with our middle grade novels to Pitch Wars in the fall of 2020. Quite a few people had gotten requests. I was not one of them. Two people ended up getting mentorships. As of this writing, one of those writers has an agent, and I don't think the other is far behind. Three others have gotten agents without the benefit of a mentorship program. Five have gotten mentorships through various other programs.
Now we're in the two week waiting period for two possible mentorship/editing opportunities: WriteMentor and RevPit. The Waves are talented writers. I will not be surprised if one or more of them win a mentee spot in each contest. I do not begrudge them those spots. However, at the same time, I find myself extremely envious that I cannot seem to even get myself in the running. Other writers, both in and outside the Waves, are getting full requests from agents and requests from contests for additional material while my inbox seems to have declared itself a request free zone.
To be fair, I did come close to getting a mentorship in the Write Team Mentorship competition fairly recently. I was basically a runner up. The mentors ultimately decided another writer would be a better fit, but they requested and read my full manuscript and sent me an edit letter that was just over a page and which led me to revisions that I think have made the book even stronger. I've also gotten several "champagne rejections" for Mousecracker, in which agents have named specific things they like about the book and said my writing is very strong but said the book is not the right fit for them. However, none of them have gone on to ask for the full, so even that can feel like cold comfort when so many people I know are getting much more hopeful news.
Sometimes it's tempting to just throw in the towel and figure out what career I want to pursue that doesn't involve constant rejection. Because the fact is, even agented writers get rejected by editors and even published writers get rejected by reviewers and readers. But then I remember how much books have meant to me in my life. I remember my vision to create characters who share the invisible disabilities I know intimately so that readers who live with them can finally see someone like them as a hero in the stories they read. I remember that lots of people, some of them published writers, have told me that I'm "an excellent writer". Do all excellent writers get published? No, they don't. However, I would venture to say that most, perhaps all, excellent writers who don't get published don't reach that milestone because they gave up.
So I take a page from Anna in Frozen 2 and, to paraphrase, "Do the next writing thing". Today I sent out some queries with my shiny new revised query and pages. I also worked on putting together an initial synopsis for my WIP. I'm more of a pantser at heart, thanks in part to my ADHD, but I'm trying to get more organized so I at least have a decent idea of the path the book will follow. I'm also continually working to improve my craft by reading well written books - some of the type I would like to write and others not. As a bonus, reading well written books is also a lot of fun. Today in my reading I'm traveling to the fantasy world of Lithvas, based loosely on Lithuania, which is part of my heritage. While I don't foresee myself writing a book very similar to Naomi Novik's Spinning Silver, I do at some point want to pull on the myths and legends of my Lithuanian ancestors to create my own story.
Maybe tomorrow or next week or next month or (shudder) even next year my inbox will shake off its funk and stop being a "request free zone". In the meantime, my documents full of new ideas are waiting, there's a world of good books to be read, and I just need to "keep swimming" (yes, I'm stealing a phrase from a completely different Disney movie :)) and do the next writing thing.
